Today I would like to talk to you about how autistic I live attention. I think it can be important because I often see some of you who are not autistic try to catch the attention of an autistic without succeeding, at least in appearance, with consequent frustration which then tends to progressively reduce further future attempts.
From our correspondent in autism. Federico: “Noises and smells are stronger for me”
by Federico De Rosa
February 10, 2022
I will start by saying that attention is a rare commodity in my autistic mind because I am often bewildered by too many stimuli from your society.
Diary of an autistic boy, Federico: “I’ll explain the reason for the stereotypy”
Federico DeRose
11 March 2022
First and foremost in big cities like the one where I live, too many things happen too quickly; events pile up on top of each other, sometimes the next one undermines the previous one and I don’t always have the time to understand everything that happens and therefore I am pushed towards new events often with a fragmentary if not even incomplete understanding of the previous episodes.
The dreams of an autistic boy, Federico: “My ideal home away from the chaos of the city”
by Federico De Rosa
02 April 2022
And as if this were not enough, my mind is often attacked by noises, lights, smells, that is, by all the jam of exaggerated sensory stimuli that marks the time of life in the city.
So when you ask me for attention, you are asking me for something of which I myself am poor and which I struggle to acquire.
So nothing to do? I wouldn’t say, in fact a lot can be done to get my attention.
World Autism Day 2022, the first step is early diagnosis
by Tina Simoniello
02 April 2022
First of all I would say take me to a very quiet place, for example a forest, and to carry out a relaxing activity together like walking.
Start with some verbal silence and walk by my side. Then out of the corner of your eye look at my face and the movements of my body. Do you see how many things I am communicating? You may not notice it but you are doing the same too.
In the beginning, the two non-verbal communications, yours and mine, will be totally independent because each person is a world unto himself. But then, if we are careful to read each other’s non-verbal communication, we will naturally begin to converge towards a non-verbal communication of the we.
Diary of an autistic boy: Federico: “I’ll tell you what friendship is for me”
by Federico De Rosa
13 Maggio 2022
At this point, do not rush. Let the dimension of the harmony of the we reach maturity in the verbal silence. Then you can begin to say a few words slowly and calmly. But don’t overdo it!
I know that some of you are incurable talkers and so you lose the best of human relationships which is a deep and mature shared silence.