Title: Dele Alli Opens Up About Traumatic Past, Aims to Inspire Others
Date: July 13, 2023
Dele Alli, the English midfielder, has recently come forward to share the haunting traumas from his past that have hindered his progression in the Premier League. Despite his initial aspirations to create a lasting legacy at Tottenham, Alli’s career took a downturn, largely due to the distressing experiences he endured during his childhood.
Born into a troubled family, Alli’s mother battled alcoholism and often neglected him, even when he was just a young child. In a candid conversation with reputable football commentator Gary Neville on “The Overlap” YouTube channel, Alli explained, “I’m afraid to talk about it, but it’s time to do it.”
Alli took a significant step towards healing when he sought treatment at a mental health rehabilitation center after returning from his loan spell in Turkey last season. Reflecting on his decision, Alli said, “When I found out that I needed an operation, I was mentally very bad… I felt that it was my moment.”
The former Tottenham figure described the internal struggle he faced, even smiling on the outside while losing the battle within. “If you knew my life, you would understand this better… A trauma is a trauma, and your body registers it to the same extent. I want to help people see that they are not alone,” Alli emphasized.
Sharing a deeply personal revelation, Alli disclosed a horrifying incident involving someone close to his mother. “At the age of six, a friend of my mother’s sexually abused me… They sent me to Africa to learn discipline and then they sent me back.”
He further revealed that at a shockingly young age, he turned to smoking and selling drugs. Alli said, “An elderly person told me that they would not stop a child on a bicycle, so I would go around with my soccer ball, and then carry the drugs behind me.”
However, Alli’s life began to change positively when he was adopted by a loving family at the age of 12. “At 11, they hung me from a bridge… At 12, I was adopted by an amazing family. I couldn’t have asked for better people to do what they did for me.”
With his adoptive parents, Alli’s life took a turn for the better, and by the age of 16, he was fully immersed in football. Remarkably, he holds no resentment towards his biological mother, stating, “My mother drank a lot, and I do not blame her at all for what she went through.”
Alli expressed how rehabilitation has helped him understand his circumstances, stating that it was the necessary step to take to create a chance for a better life and pursue success. The hardships he endured shaped his determination to thrive.
Now 27-years-old, Alli returned to Everton after his loan spell at Besiktas. His main goal is to regain his form and recapture the level of play that earned him a spot in the England national team until mid-2019, when he lost his place in the squad.
In a surprising turn, Alli revealed that he no longer wishes to maintain a relationship with his birth parents. Their actions, when he turned 18 years old, deeply hurt him, as they went to the press to accuse his adoptive family of taking advantage of him. Perceiving this as an act of betrayal, Alli expressed his disappointment and emphasized his decision to sever ties with his mother and father.
Through his brave revelation and determination to overcome his difficult past, Dele Alli hopes to inspire others who may be facing similar challenges. As he embarks on the next chapter of his career, Alli strives to leave a lasting impact on and off the field.