How to spend the first summer vacation after the “double reduction”? Many parents are worried about this. There are no longer subject training classes. How should children spend their extra time? The popular movie “Mozart in Outer Space”, a fantasy family carnival movie, may inspire parents to get answers on how to build a parent-child relationship. Parents should learn to accompany them in a “friend-like” style, rather than “domineering” domination. They should give their children autonomy, so that they can have a meaningful vacation and get the growth they want.
In the past summer vacations, many children’s vacation lives were planned by their parents long before the vacation. The training schedule for the holidays is fuller than the school schedule. But are these courses the children are interested in and want to learn? No, parents choose for their children. Ask your child to be very interested in things that they are not interested in.
Ren Dawang in “Mozart in Outer Space” is an “overbearing dad”. He wanted to train his son, Ren Xiaotian, who loves astronomy, into a pianist, so he took all-weather high-pressure supervision on Ren Xiaotian’s piano practice. This allows Xiaotian to secretly read his favorite astronomy books while his father is relaxing, and even has a rebellious mentality. Like this “overbearing dad”, many parents impose their will on their children instead of allowing them to develop their own interests. But it backfired. This not only deprived the child of the autonomy to develop his interests, but also made the parent-child relationship tense. The child was not interested in the training courses arranged by the parents. If parents take their children to see this movie, it is the parents who may be more educated.
“Mozart” is a mysterious alien. His appearance gave Xiaotian the power from his friends, and he began to “fight his wits” with his father, who was eager to dominate him. This is very similar to the process of our growing up. We do not have the understanding and support of our parents at home, and there is nowhere to talk about distress and pressure. We can only find friends. “Mozart” is such a friend. Of course, this friend did not fall from the sky, but a relationship cultivated through mutual care and mutual growth.
Although parents as children’s friends, and peers as children’s friends, or “aliens” as children’s friends, there will be different connotations of friends, but respect for independence, desire for understanding and equality, is the key to getting along with friends road. Every student is an independent individual with their own personality and ideas. Parents should provide high-quality companionship for their children, help them become the best version of themselves and grow with them in the process of safeguarding their children’s healthy growth.
[Editor in charge: Xu Ziming]