“Dating is not hard, it’s that we are hard on ourselves,” says love and relationship expert Stella Schultner. © Sapna Richter
“Healthy relationships sometimes feel boring,” says Stella Schultner. Many people don’t want to believe that. She helps singles and women who ask themselves: Why do I keep falling for the wrong guys? Why does the voice in your head immediately say after a good but not so exciting date: Next one, please? Or also: Why do I think that the relationship with the ex wasn’t so bad after all?
Ghosting, breadcrumbing, friendship plus or nothing at all: Stella discusses with podcast hosts Melanie Büttner and Sven Stockrahm how people often manipulate themselves when dating without knowing it. It doesn’t just reveal where it comes from. But also how you manage not to stumble from one disappointment to the next in your search for stable relationships.
The entire episode can be heard at the top of this page.
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Stella Schultner studied psychology and works as a love and singles coach. She primarily advises women on love and relationship issues. She also gives tips on dating and relationships on Instagram and in her podcast IN LOVE.
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“Healthy relationships sometimes feel boring,” says Stella Schultner. Many people don’t want to believe that. She helps singles and women who ask themselves: Why do I keep falling for the wrong guys? Why does the voice in your head immediately say after a good but not so exciting date: Next one, please? Or also: Why do I think that the relationship with the ex wasn’t so bad after all?
Ghosting, breadcrumbing, friendship plus or nothing at all: Stella discusses with podcast hosts Melanie Büttner and Sven Stockrahm how people often manipulate themselves when dating without knowing it. It doesn’t just reveal where it comes from. But also how you manage not to stumble from one disappointment to the next in your search for stable relationships.