“You cannot not communicate,” said the Austrian psychoanalyst and philosopher Paul Watzlawick. The scientist has put forward many theses about what is involved in communication – the so-called non-verbal language of the body also finds a place in it.
Verdict within seconds
Body language includes posture, movement, gestures and facial expressions. When you look at other people, you usually subconsciously scan their faces, the movements of their hands and their posture. In this way, you can get an impression of the other person in a split second – even without speaking to each other.
So that you don’t unintentionally send wrong signals, you should pay particular attention to these postures in yourself.
Pay attention to your facial expressions
Frowning or rolling your eyes in particular can unsettle the person you are talking to – even though you may not mean it in a negative way. Even if facial expressions are usually not easy to control, a smile on the lips appears much more likeable.
Staring or looking away – a fine line
Anyone who is dishonest looks away. Even small children do that. Even when you’re an adult, it often seems like you’re trying to hide something. This can make your counterpart suspicious.
However, avoiding eye contact can also be a sign of insecurity and disinterest. So if you’re listening to the person you’re talking to or have something to say, don’t look around.
Constantly looking at the clock
Let’s be honest, if you’re telling a story and the person you’re talking to is looking at the clock, the joy of the conversation is likely to quickly fade, isn’t it?
Anyone who checks the time often appears impatient and shows less respect for the person they are talking to.
Way too close
In the film, the characters are quite close to each other in front of the camera. In reality, this would make many people uncomfortable. A healthy distance shows that you respect the other person. If you break through this boundary, you are more likely to appear disrespectful or even threatening.
Control your arms
Cross your arms over your chest, creating a small wall between you and the person opposite you. This makes you seem more hostile and closed. Even if the situation seems comfortable, ask yourself if you want to give that impression.