BOREDOM about the lockdown pushes more and more people to seek adventures online. The number of people who are already busy looking for meetings online, on dedicated platforms, is increasing. In short, the Covid and the fear of the virus failed to reduce the desire to cheat on one’s partner. According to a study by the Ashley Madison platform, which boasts 70 million members in 52 countries, in Italy those looking for an extramarital love story are most often a woman. They are 10% more than men.
“I reveal the secrets of betrayal”
by Valeria Pini
The research examines 735,000 subscribers in our country, a sample that should be expanded, but which indicates a trend. The analysis reveals that in Italy, among women, 29% the reference age for legally sanctioned unions is between 30-39 years of age, if we consider that the average age at which Italian women marry is 32. While I am i23% unfaithful men of average marriage age (34-35 years). “The data on greater female infidelity is surprising, generally we tend to think the opposite, and in this sense it is as if there had been an overtaking in the race. But in this case the numbers matter and the only explanation – he explains. Roberta Rossi, sexologist and psychotherapist – what comes to mind is that a platform reduces the initial embarrassment of a betrayal, I imagine you browse a catalog and click on the photo you like and then the virtual meeting takes place first and then live. In this way the ice has already broken and we are proceeding more quickly on a terrain less practiced in the past “.
Has technology therefore changed the sexual habits of women and men?
“Technology has definitely changed sexual habits, and all of this has expanded during this latest pandemic period. Dating apps have reached unprecedented numbers, sexual messaging with photo and content exchanges, sexting, has largely widespread, the connection platforms have given the possibility of a virtual sexual exchange and the same sex toys have increased sales during this last year. Technology in many cases has made possible that proximity not allowed by the Covid-19 prevention rules, which in this case has amplified an already existing phenomenon “.
Instead, can you give us an identikit of the man and woman who tend to betray?
“The search for a partner outside of a relationship has different reasons behind it. Frustration in the relationship is a common trigger, as well as boredom or habit that is established in a relationship and from which it is not possible to go out; to this you can add economic problems, character incompatibilities, lack of respect and esteem that lead to a deterioration of the relationship and even if you do not decide to close it, you seek or find a relationship outside. Generally it is said that men are more likely to be in relationships than women and often seek more sex or attention. Female betrayal seems to be more associated with emotional pursuit. Women often complain of emotional disconnection from partners and a desire to feel wanted and loved. It is therefore likely that women, not feeling appreciated or ignored, seek emotional intimacy in an extramarital relationship “.
The research also shows a difference between Regions. Lazio is in first position for the number of ‘infidels’ followed by Lombardy and Tuscany, Emilia Romagna, Friuli Venezia Giulia, Liguria, Piedmont, Valle d’Aosta, Veneto and Marche. Below the national average Molise, Basilicata, Calabria
“It is difficult to say something precise, it is more than anything else a photograph that is given. Probably regions such as Lazio and Lombardy see many displacements and therefore also different opportunities to be seized for a betrayal, we should understand these data when they were recorded , whether during the pandemic or not. Others are less populous regions and therefore the probability of betrayal decreases in percentage terms. numbers”.
From your experience, do online platforms represent the greatest terrain for meeting future partners? What has changed with Covid?
“Being in an extra relationship is much easier than in the past, and social sites, chat rooms and dating apps have often been implicated in many such relationships. As for cheating, the network seems to have replaced the office. always considered the privileged place for extra relationships, so much so that more and more often we talk about virtual betrayal, which in some cases can also cost a charge in case of separation. Covid-19 also in this case acted as an amplifier for those methods that had already been used for some time “.
What happens instead among the boys?
“Younger children use these platforms. Where they get to know now that we are at home, with fewer opportunities for socializing. Young people, adolescents have always used the network more and better than us adults, so they know the potential of this tool well. , less sometimes the risks to which one can go to meet. Even before the pandemic they learned to know each other via chat, to tell each other via social media, to send messages through the network itself. Many platforms, such as the one we are talking about, require the greatest age to be able to access and I don’t think it is of interest to a teenager. For the rest, kids often surf and their socialization takes place a lot in this way, and in a period like this we can consider it a great resource “.
Sex, Covid anxiety reduces desire
by Valeria Pini
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