On her Instagram profile, Murgia continues to talk about her non-traditional queer family and a few hours ago she revealed that she has been sharing motherhood with Claudia, an architect for many years
“A surreal funeral celebration has taken place in life that I honestly do not feel like attending yet”. After revealing that she is suffering from cancer, she did so a few weeks ago in a long interview with Corriere della Sera, Michelle Murgia she is back to talking – or rather writing – about her illness and what the news has triggered. And she does it with her own sarcastic style, but at the same time very profound, with a piece published on The print in which she explains how things are and why she doesn’t want the disease to erode her. “A funny thing happened to me: I became Schrödinger’s cat, the one who is both alive and dead at the same time. Announcing a disease and its course of now a year and a half has triggered a surreal funeral celebration in life to which I honestly still don’t feel like participating with the admirable momentum that I have noticed in some commentators ”, writes Murgia today.
“I’m interested instead of themy illness, which erodes my time, does not also erode my sense and that of things I’ve been doing for the last few months, one of which was writing a book that, no, sorry to disappoint morbidity hunters, is not about my cancer. I don’t read other people’s books on cancer, much less would I write about them”, explains the writer, explaining how it came about Three Bowls, his latest novel, and what it’s about. “Cancer itself is only a topic if you are an oncologist at a specialist congress. The novel I wrote instead talks about inescapable crises and how sometimes the best solution to get out of them is to stay in them. The mother of all crises these past three years has been the same for everyone: the pandemic, but for most people I know the pandemic has never existed. Not that they don’t remember it, they just don’t want to hear about it anymore.”
Meanwhile, through a series of posts on her Instagram profile, Murgia continues to talk about her non-traditional queer family and a few hours ago revealed that she has been sharing motherhood with Claudia for many years, an architect, with whom he forms a homoparental couple. “For twelve years we have shared a son, Raphael,” she writes, referring to a boy who often appears in photos of her with her. Just Raphael, when he was nine years old, took her Murgia by the hand and said to her: “I don’t want you to ever leave again”. She started at that point a shared motherhood, unacknowledged by the laws and non-traditionalgiven that in the meantime the Murgia has divorced and Claudia got married. “We have lived many things together, but one thing has never changed: we have remained Raphael’s mothers,” she reveals. “It was easy? Yes and no. He did the easy part, who has an emotional intelligence that we don’t even have after a lifetime of analysis. The hard part was done by the others. Biological parentage distrustful, if not hostile. Judging comrades. Morbid acquaintances. A thousand explanations ”, he continues, admitting that the worries are still not lacking. “There is a fear that someone at customs will ask you why you are traveling abroad with a minor who is not your child. The certainty that you can’t pick him up from school, because you’re nobody. The worry that something will happen to her and you won’t be able to say: I’m here too. Or something happens to you and he can’t say: she was my mother. We hid for years, mothers at home, friends outside, to keep the world at ease. Then a year and a half ago I got sick and everything has changed”.