90% of parents have been recruited by these methods that cannot coax their children. (Image source: Adobe Stock)
educate childrenIt is the university’s question that it must work but not be counterproductive. In this era where beating and scolding is not advocated,ParentOnly use precepts and deeds to bring children. In some cases, even if the effect of education is immediate, but it is not conducive to the development of children’s right and wrong and behavior habits, we must not say!
1. Taking medicine is not bitter, and injection is not painful
“Baby, take a bite, this medicine is sweet.” “Don’t be afraid, the injection doesn’t hurt at all, it’s all right at once.” Whether it’s medicine or injection, you always see somethingparentsTell the child like this.
Parents want their children to get injections and medicines obediently, but they should not use lies to get their babies to accept them in order to coax their children. With the first and second time, it is not so easy to ask the baby to obediently wait for the third time.
Give the baby a psychological buffer and comfort. Parents can tell their children: “The injection is a little painful, but it will be better if you insist on it.” You can also cheer up: “If you can’t hold back crying, you must be a brave baby. But it doesn’t matter if you cry, mother is there.”
2. Wait for next time, wait for later
“Mom, shall we go to the park to play?”
“We will go again when we have time next time!”
“Dad, you promised to accompany me to fly a kite this week!”
“Dad has to work overtime this week, wait for next time…”
In life, we will always postpone the things we promised to the baby until the next time or later because of our busy schedule, but there is no more information. Parents’ own behavior is the best way of nurturing. If parents always fail to keep their promises to their children, the children will naturally lose their behavior guide.
Only by precepts and deeds can a child’s sense of responsibility and integrity be cultivated, which will be an invaluable treasure in a child’s life.
3. Don’t tell mom
“This is the pocket money that grandma gave you, don’t tell mom!”
“Go! Dad will take you to eat ice cream, but you must keep it secret, you can’t tell mom!”
On the issue of educating children, many families will also assign the roles of red face and white face. There is nothing wrong with strict and love education methods, but there are some rules set by mothers and it is not recommended that other family members break them at will. Because educational methods with different opinions not only teach children how to lie, affect the cultivation of self-control, but also hinder them from correctly understanding their own behavior.
As long as it is not a matter of principle, other parents can ask their mothers for permission before doing it with their children.
Children are full of innocence and will ask strange questions. (Image source: Adobe Stock)
4. You’ll know when you grow up
“Mom, how did I get born?”
“I’ll know when you grow up!”
“Dad, why can’t people fly?”
“Well, this, you will understand when you grow up!”
Children’s world is full of innocence, and they always ask strange questions. This answer not only fails to satisfy the children’s thirst for knowledge, but also hinders their desire to continue exploring.
Parents should answer every question of their children seriously, satisfy their curiosity, and encourage them to explore actively.
5. You are the smartest, beautiful and handsome child
Whenever the baby puts on a new dress, the parents can’t help but praise: “My daughter is the most beautiful!” “My son is the most handsome!”
The baby showed the built blocks to his mother, and the mother immediately said: “That’s amazing, my son is the smartest baby in the world!”
There is nothing wrong with praising and encouraging children. Every baby is the best in the eyes of his parents. However, the appearance will change over time. With the expansion of the relationship, the baby will find that he is not so smart. If he can’t hear these compliments one day, then he must not be confident.
When a child performs well, parents should try not to use smartness to praise, but affirm the child’s hard work and dedication, and hope that it will be better next time.
6. Mom doesn’t like you anymore, doesn’t want you anymore
“Don’t cry anymore, mother will not like you anymore!”
“We don’t have a child like you in our family! I don’t want you anymore!”
When mothers face a howling baby and feel at a loss, they always throw out threatening words. This kind of ironic expression is indeed very effective for the baby, but it will make the child feel insecure.
When the attachment relationship is destroyed, the child will show behaviors such as withdrawal, sensitivity, low self-esteem, suspiciousness, and emotional instability.
7. Be good, don’t need your help
After eating, the child wants to help you clean up the dishes and chopsticks, so you rush over and say: “Don’t move, let’s mother come, or it will break again!”
Seeing you are cleaning, the baby also picked up the broom to help sweep the floor. You grabbed it and said: “Hey, don’t need your help, let’s play!”
Doing so will not only dampen children’s self-confidence, but also not help develop their self-care ability, and will easily allow them to develop a habit of dependence.
When the baby is willing to take the initiative to do something, parents should support and encourage more. The baby didn’t do a good job this time, and the parents should tactfully point out the shortcomings and explain the methods and skills. Encourage your baby to do well next time.
8. I’m all for your good!
Many parents make various choices for their children since childhood, such as hobby and talent classes. When a child is dissatisfied, does not study well, or does not go to class, parents will always say “I am doing this for your own good!”
“I’m good for you”, when we were young, we also disliked our parents’ saying.
There is no doubt that every parent’s motivation is good, but the actual results are not ideal. Because of the invisible pressure on the back of this sentence, some children will become rebellious.
Interest and talent classes can be selected according to the baby’s hobbies. If there is no musical score in the family, there is no need to force the baby to have a strong musical attainment.
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