With just a little imagination and a few small changes, everything can become much better…
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We bring you a dozen tips that will make both you and your partner wiser.
– Don’t take everything off yourself
“You’re probably used to taking everything off before sex, but I suggest you leave something on – a pair of tights or a necklace is enough to change your perspective. It brings out your sexy side.”advises Dr. Juliana Morris, sex expert for love relationships.
I have advice for guys.
“Men, try being commando and just unbutton your jeans! That’s a lot more exciting than leaving your socks on, isn’t it? Doing the opposite of what you normally do can be very exciting”she added.
– Have an “affair” with your partner
Plan a “date” with your partner and act like you’re meeting your lover, while at the same time you both, like, have spouses at home.
“Part of the reason why couples cheat is the feeling of sexual freedom, simply because it’s taboo. Because who knows where that fake affair can lead you. Even just preparing for it can warm you up, the anticipation will turn you on,” he says. Coltrane Lord, Intimacy Expert.
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– Do not underestimate the power of lubricants
“I want to introduce you to an amazing concept, flavored lubricants during oral sex. Even if you’re not a big fan of that kind of sex, the fact that you’re going to get a sweet treat could change some things in the relationship,” advises Emily Morse, author of the Sex with Emily podcast “.
– Change locations
“Make love on the kitchen counter. Do it in the hallway. Do it on the couch or on the dresser in the bedroom. It doesn’t matter where, just pick a spot that’s not your usual spot.”suggests Dr. Moris and adds that passion is also raised by new smells, sounds, lighting and textures, it is important that everything is not always the same because that is boring.
– Try new poses
“The new pose doesn’t always have to be pleasant, but this way you defy the circumstances, and sometimes gravity,” says sexologist Alexandra Fine, and gives an example: “For example, put a pillow under the buttocks and thus support deeper penetration.”
Also, we suggest you flip through the Kama book tomorrow and try a new pose each time. You will soon find your favorites that you will both enjoy the most
– Touch each other
Explore your body and what gives you the greatest pleasure. Masturbate, there’s nothing wrong with it, experts say.
“Once you know what helps you achieve orgasm, then you can ask for it from your partner. Besides, asking for what you really want during love making can be really sexy,” says Fine.
Sex educator Kiana Reeves agrees.
“Masturbation is your best friend. It’s the best way to create a pleasure roadmap that empowers you and helps your partner become a better lover“, she explained.
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– Think about the list of fantasies
“Make a list together of exciting ideas you’d like to try together. If you come up with something that doesn’t concern both parties, put it on a ‘maybe’ list to go through again later”suggests Morris.
“Making a list is not only fun, but talking about the desires of both parties can keep the passion alive in the relationship. Communication allows you to fantasize in agreement and to focus on pleasure in the bedroom without hesitation”she added.
– Have fun together
Sometimes keeping passion alive in the bedroom has nothing to do with sex itself. Take a tennis lesson together, try a new restaurant, go hiking together, enroll in a dance school…
“When you and your partner engage in a fun, non-sexual activity, you pay more attention to each other, which helps build desire. It’s a form of foreplay.”says Amy Levin, a certified sex coach.
– Send a provocative message
Sexting is a fun, playful way to show your partner how much you care about them. If you are not sure where to start, send a message like – fill in the blanks and write: “I want you slowly_______ to ________ while you _______ to me”.
Be creative, you will brighten the day for both yourself and the other party, but also raise the level of sexual excitement.
– Rent a room in a hotel
Why not! Take a break from the daily chaos and treat yourself to a little romance in a beautifully decorated, quiet room with a “Do Not Disturb” sign on the door.
“It’s very sexy. I often recommend it to couples,” says Morris, noting that you shouldn’t look at it as running away and locking yourself in a room just for crazy sex, because that could create pressure and high expectations, and ultimately disappointment.
“Look at it as an opportunity to cuddle, talk and maybe have a few drinks. That way you can relax and be open to whatever may happen next,” she explained.
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– Send your partner an invitation
And not just any kind, invite him to make love.
“I like to send a Google invitation to our shared calendar, for a priority meeting, and I also like when he sends me such an invitation”says Ana (38), who has been happily married for more than 11 years.
Experts agree that it’s a great way to keep the passion alive in a relationship. It’s both fun and exciting. Along with the invitation, you can also write a few details about what you would do to your partner, what you want him to do to you…
– Make love slowly
“Slow down your breathing when you’re making love. Although it doesn’t seem like much, believe me it has a big impact. Slowing down helps partners concentrate on touch and movement, which means you’ll experience a more intense connection”advises Rives.
Therapist Dr. Moris fully agrees with her and recommends that you try tantric sex.
This way of making love can last for hours and actually leads to incredible orgasms that are incomparable to those of classic sex – two people become one.
(WORLD)