B1NARY – Ep. 30: Wrist Matters…

Hi Sara,
Your premise already says everything there is to know: you are engaged.

And this only opens up two possible scenarios: forget the actor or leave your current boyfriend. Or – and here we venture – throw yourself into the wonderful world of polyamory. But this, of course, assumes that the other two people are aware and consenting.

Only you can know if this is just a crush, or if it’s something more, beautiful and destructive. It could also be an opportunity to evaluate your current relationship and ask yourself why part of me fell in love with your co-worker. Ask yourself a lot of questions and answer calmly and without haste but above all with honesty. You will see that there will be no wrong choices, perhaps difficult ones or perhaps there will be no choices at all to make.

The alternative is betrayal, a choice that we do not encourage from an ethical point of view, but above all from a practical point of view. Betrayal is surprisingly challenging. In short, how do you remember what lie you told on day X at X time? And then you have to come up with different excuses every time. Maybe with both! Our heads are already exploding.

In short, we recommend sincerity.
What then… you said that the actor “liked” you. Are we sure he still likes you or is it all buried in the past?

Update us!

Yes Diego! It’s ugly!!!
Ok, let’s settle down for a moment.

Dear Diego,
yes, but you can give her a bracelet that covers it. Or long-sleeved shirts, a watch, wetsuits, sports elbow warmers… the list goes on.

Or simply offer to pay for a replacement tattoo – even if the operation could be doubly painful: physically for her, financially for you. A tattoo of her choice, mind you, because it’s not enough to appropriate a person simply by putting our initials on them. Your girlfriend is not a contract you can countersign.
Reason why the simplest solution, in our opinion, remains ignore those stupid inked letters.

And then we wouldn’t be who we are today without the influence of the people we met in the past. In one way or another, exes have helped make us the boyfriends and girlfriends we are today.

Sometimes some of them have left deeper marks than others. And sometimes these signs are visible. We cannot and should not delete them. We should simply accept that they are there, that they represent something: a memory, an adventure, a love, the person we were.
But all this belongs to another era. At another time.

So don’t be intimidated by a little ink on your skin and enjoy your relationship.
Indeed, use it to your advantage, feel powerful and proud to have in your hands the opportunity to make your woman happy, which he evidently failed to do. Maybe it’s a reminder for her too, to remember not to make wrong choices and to keep choosing you every day.

Dear Paula,
cheating is subjective, monogamy is tough but the escapades of thought, unless they turn into non-agreed acts and therefore petty by definition, they will never attract our disapproval.

However, like everything, everything is in the intentions, if we analyze the thing from a purely objective point of view, the gesture of chatting simply means pressing buttons on a keyboard or a screen to send messages to a person, we do not believe that this is considered cheating. If to this apparently trivial gesture is added the intention of meeting him, forging a relationship or forging something else… then the situation changes.

What worries us most is that often this kind of activity represents a symptom of tiredness, or the prelude to much less innocent evolutions. So know that in any case you are entering a foreign land, and that unpredictable scenarios could be hidden behind the horizon – not necessarily good, but definitely not unpleasant either.
The important thing, however, is that you are aware of it.